We were talking about running. I was with my family and I was signing up for my first half marathon. That’s the first time I was struck by this negative jolt of energy. “Am I a runner?”
I mean, really. I had only been running a couple of months at the gym in an effort to lose some weight. Who did I think I was signing up for a half marathon. Turns out, I am a runner.
What running has taught me in life is simple. If you run, you are a runner.
Judgment is everywhere in the world, and the last place you should place judgement is on yourself. That is not to say you shouldn’t set standards in your life. It’s important to try new things. However, you shouldn’t be so hard on yourself during the process.
Imagine if everyone who was successful stopped doing what they love because they failed a few times. Imagine if all of these people stayed in college rather than lived out their dreams. The world as we know it would cease to exist.
Although, I would be lying if I said I LOVE everyone’s Facebook wars. (Thanks Zuckerberg) Fight on, keyboard warriors. “Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it.” *Dumbledore voice* What? Back to the point, Aleigha. Back to the point.
Interestingly enough a wonderful soul expressed this exact mindset in the form of a Facebook comment on that BuzzFeed article linked above. “The average person is not Brad Pitt, Mark Zuckerberg, or Bill Gates. The average person needs to keep his or her ass in school.”
Ah, yes. To be average. When is the last time you asked a child what they want to be when they grow up and their response was “I would like to be exceptionally average.”
DO YOU HEAR YOURSELF? NO. They want to be an astronaut, on television, an athlete, or conquer the world riding a unicorn singing the Pokemon theme song. Screw average. The problem is all in your mindset. Life is about risks. Every single one of those people took a giant risk. For them, it paid off.
As humans we feel more safe signing up to be thousands of dollars in debt in an attempt to get a job, rather than following our passion. Why? Because, its “normal” “average” “safe” and what our parents tell us to do. Sorry, I’m just not buying it. What I mean is, I’m not buying into this mindset. It’s compliant, and it goes against every fiber of my being.
I believe that if I were to sit here and not work on my passions and continue to search for my purpose I am literally doing the world an injustice, and so are you. At what point in life was I told “No more dreams about being on television. Lets be realistic, sweetheart.” At what point do you stop telling your child they can be whatever they want?
We grow up believing that failure is a bad thing, when failure is nothing more than a chance to grow. It’s an opportunity to try again. To expand on what didn’t work and search for what DOES.
There are far to many people that don’t even try to grow because they are too afraid of failure. For much of my life I thought that going to school was the answer for me. Yet, I have been miserable every step of the way. I get asked “What do you want to do after school?” and all these years later I still don’t know? Probably because school was never the answer for me, and no one allowed me to believe otherwise.
So here I am, allowing myself to believe otherwise. I don’t want to place blame on others. I could have very easily said “I’m not going.” I am also incredibly stubborn and believed that going away and being in school was EXACTLY what I needed. I was also 18 years old, and no smarter than the lamp sitting next to me. (Sorry to anyone who is 18 and reading this. I swear you’ll agree in like 4 more years.)
Even more so, I don’t want to act like college ISN’T for some people. There are individuals who go to college and schooling comes by them naturally. We need those people, and thats great. I’m merely challenging some of you to wake up to your calling, including myself.
Nothing that’s worth it comes easy, and nothing that’s easy is worth it.
My point is this, if you’re not happy do something about it. Failure is an option, and a critical one for success. Knowing what doesn’t work gets you one step closer to finding what does. Today I realized, I am a blogger. Why? Because I blog. It’s not perfect and I don’t expect it to be, but its a start. My start.
Love yourself enough to dream. Respect yourself enough to fail and get back up.
Thank you for reading.